The other day I serendipitously found myself able to have lunch with my husband. It was a chance encounter but one that I was excited about as it had been a while since we had spent time together. As we were driving to a restaurant he asked where I’d like to go. I picked a local upscale, sit-down restaurant. “No,” he responded.
“Ok, so where would you like to go?” I asked.
“How about some place quick that has a counter you walk up to and pick your food.”
“Nah, how about a place where we can sit down and get served. We’ll have more time to talk.”
“I’d really prefer to grab something quick. I’d love to hang out but I have lots of errands I need to do today. I don’t have much free time and I need to get everything done.”
Well, then, I sorta lost it.
“I hear what you are saying and that you have lots to get done but when is the last time we got to hang out together? When is the last time we actually had a date? You spend so much of your life taking care of other people, but what do you to take care of yourself? I think that you can spend one hour during your very busy day, for you—to spend time with your wife. Ok, I’m done, I’ll get off of my soapbox now.”
Ok, so maybe I slathered on the guilt a bit too thick.
But I meant it. I really meant it.
We spend so much of our time doing for others, taking care of others but I want to know what we do to take care of ourselves—without feeling guilty.
As the Holiday season approaches and we are even more revved up to do for others, to buy for others, to spend time on others, to focus on others, I ‘d like to suggest that we don’t forget to take care of ourselves. Strive to find some time during each day to gift yourself with something that you like—drink a cup of coffee, sit for a few minutes of quiet and relaxation, read a chapter or two in a book, go out to lunch with a friend, whatever it is, find something that will quiet your mind and connect to your soul.
In the end, we had a delicious, relaxing, hour-long lunch.
I hope he enjoyed it as much as I did.